Every parent feels the pull in multiple directions and the inadequacy of not being able to do as much as you want to. I’ve tried to focus on quality over quantity, to make the most of the time. The most conscious things I’ve had to do to make this work are 1) establishing times for looking at my phone and reading/responding to messages, so that I can then put it aside when I’m spending time with the kids. I turn off notifications during the times when I need to be focused. 2) prioritizing time for myself too — it doesn’t work to give everything you have to work and family and not keep any time for just yourself. I am a much more present parent when I’ve also allowed myself some time each day just for me, whether to read, get a drink with a friend, or go for a workout. 3) finding things that we like to do together.